Update and Whine

I had the consult with Dr. Glassner today. He made a stupid joke to begin with, but it was sweet and I still really like him! We are looking at a mid-November frozen embryo transfer (FET) dependent on when Ginger gets her period. They will thaw 4 and transfer 2. Yes, we have the distinct possibility of twins. We’ll deal.

An online friend is going through a terrible ordeal right now. Her 3 week old daughter’s birthmom came and got the baby today. It’s such a terrible situation, and although I wholeheartedly believe in waiting periods after TPR, it is heartbreaking for the family that has to return the baby. There are so many extenuating circumstances in this situation that I have trouble keeping them all straight. I won’t comment anymore.

I realized this morning that I see so many heartbreaks: disrupted adoptions, miscarriages, preemies, failed transfers, the gamut of family building and infertility nightmares. I don’t want to know. I don’t want to be part of this world. I want to be blissfully unaware that people aren’t able to get pregnant on their own. I want to be completely ignorant about betas and 2ww and PIO and all the rest of the buzz words and initials that are part and parcel of the infertility world.

On the other hand, we have the best surrogate; the best birthmother; we are so blessed with our situation. I have met the greatest women (and men!), the sweetest friends, that I never would have known if not for our ‘infertile’ situation. I guess this is the way it’s supposed to be. I have to take the good with the not-so-good. Some days I just wish I could go back to the days when I thought babies were made by mommy and daddy in the bedroom. Does that ever happen anymore?


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