Archive for January, 2010


I am very new to Surrogacy but am very excited about this! M and I tossed around the idea a few years ago about offering to assist Scott and Jessica, but were unsure if we were done having our own children. Then we ended up pregnant with our third, and Cassidy was born (they are 3 mo apart).  It was still in the back of my mind, and then I got an email from Jessica in December saying that they had to figure out their next step, and would possibly be seeking a new carrier. I knew immediately that I wanted to help. So M and I talked about it on our way to see the family (we too were in the car for a LONG time, 20 hours) and he said he was fine with it if I was sure it was something I wanted to do. So I finally got a chance to talk to Jessica about it and here we are!!

She has been so great at informing me of EVERYTHING in this process, as I am clueless about it all! We go in a few weeks for the physical evaluation, etc,  and then hope to be moving on to the next phase. I have had 3 uneventful and easy pregnancies and hope my luck in this department will continue! I want nothing more than to help Scott and Jessica complete their family.


January brings a new start

After our canceled cycle in December, and the proclamation that we needed to find another carrier, we stapled on our happy faces and rode into the holidays… But Scott and I talked about it a lot (we were in the car for about 10 hours). We decided to look into adoption, look into finding another carrier, and possibly just wait and see…

And then we got upstate to celebrate with Scott’s extended family. M and his wife, K, are Scott’s cousins that we have always enjoyed spending time with. They have 3 kids (6, 4 and 1) and live in Virginia.  We had a great time with them for 4 days and the kids played together and got along really well. The night before we came home,  K offered to carry for us.

We were (are) thrilled, but I wanted to make sure that they understood how extensive this process is. So once we got home I started sending lots of information their way. So far, I haven’t scared them off… We’ve spent the last few weeks gathering information and contacting clinics, attorneys, etc.

We are going to continue to use Main Line Fertility here in PA for a bunch of reasons, but the biggest is that’s where our 5 frozen embryos are. K’s appointment for screening is in a few weeks and, assuming we all pass the psych eval  , we will begin cycling in March. Probably a late march, or early April transfer (although I’ve never guessed the timing right!).

Hopefully K will come on and introduce herself and share her thoughts about this whole crazy process!

On another note, plans are underway for this year’s National SMO GTG here in Philly. Right now we have about 30 people planning to come play with us! It should be fun!

So now it takes four…

Now that the shock has worn off, I thought I’d come back and update. I don’t know if we’ll keep this blog going, but if not I may start another one.  I always seem to have something to say.

We currently have 5 frozen embryos – 4 frozen at day 1 and 1 frozen at day 5. As far as we know they are all good quality. You would think it would be fairly common to move them to another clinic, but that doesn’t seem to be the case. Some clinics will accept them, others will not.

We have a potential carrier. K is a family member and has graciously offered to carry our baby. We are working out some kinks, but hope that this works out. We love K and her husband and kids and know they would be very protective of our baby for 9 months!

We are going to try and get this going as soon as we can. No one is getting any younger – Cassidy will be 2 in March! Funny thing is I always said I wanted her to be closer to 3 when we had a baby. Looks like I should be careful what I wish for!

We are back to deciding whether to transfer 1 or 2. If you read back you’ll see that I was convinced we would have twins. But then I was also convinced we’d be pregnant before the end of 2009, so my instincts don’t count anymore.

Happy 2010! It’s the year of the baby 🙂