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This is it…

Our journey to parenthood and a ‘complete’ family is officially over. It’s hard to believe that after almost 5 years of trying/thinking/hoping we are truly all finished. We couldn’t be any happier with our 3 daughters. They are all a joy; Cassidy is awesome and amazes us every day and the twins are already starting to exhibit their own personalities. We know how incredibly blessed we are to have 3 happy, healthy children and as much as I complain about how hard it is (cause I *really* enjoy my sleep!) I know that it will get easier and it will be FUN 🙂

I have been keeping another blog with daily things that Cass – and now the babies – do and I guess I’ll start linking that one to FB so everyone can keep up with us…

I have to say a heartfelt thank you to everyone who encouraged us, helped us, advised us, cheered with us, and now loves our children. Special shout out to my friends from SMO: you guys are TRULY angels! I really feel like the last few years were a group effort.

And of course we wouldn’t have any children without Ginger and Kylene – both of whom know how much they mean to us!

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OMG – a REALLY long birth story

There are no other 3 letters to describe last week. I really want to take my time and make sure I get everything written down before I forget something.

Tuesday morning K was 37w1d and had a dr appt. She said she had been having BH, nothing real but thought Dr. B should check her anyway… Surprise: a “good” 3 cm! Dr. B said she couldn’t promise babies today, and breaking water at 37 weeks was iffy, but she would check the contractions and see what was going on. We went to the hospital and made some preliminary “this *could* be it” calls.

K was on the monitor from 11a – 1p and when Dr B came to check her at 1, she was just about 4cm and Dr B said “you’re staying!” I went to get K’s and the babies’ bags and K started walking the halls. When I left the hospital I was making calls and texting and couldn’t remember how to get back to Marilyn’s house – good thing I have GPS! I got the bags and headed back to the hospital. I still don’t think I was convinced this was really happening.

When Dr B came back around 2, K was a good 4 and her water broke – first time ever it broke with no intervention! I think that was when I *knew* this was really happening today! K didn’t have any pain (she might have winced twice all day) and we were able to walk and chat the whole time. It was not like any labor I have ever heard of and I think she was surprised as well.

At some point during the day I was thinking about the date, 2/22. I was really excited because I love dates and I knew that Scott could remember it. It hit me that our original consult with Kylene, Matt, me and the RE was on 2/22/10. I thought that was REALLY cool!

Epidural went in at 5pm and K was at 5cm (I remember saying “5 at 5, I can remember that!”) We were hoping that her sister would make it to the delivery and at that point she was 2 hours away. We all figured she had plenty of time. Although at that point K’s husband told me “Another hour or so and she’ll be done.” I thought he was nuts! I was thinking the babies would come at 10 or 11 that night. K’s mom got there and we all chatted some more. When Dr. B came back at 6:30 to check K, she said “Just as I suspected, you’re complete. Please keep your legs closed until we get to the OR.” WHAT?! That was crazy fast and I was NOT ready!! I sent a couple “she’s going to push now” texts and then the nurse had me put my gown on. Bethany wasn’t there yet but we found out that she wouldn’t have been able to go into the OR anyway so that made it a little easier to take.

Dr. B had made sure we were in the room closest to the OR and we went right in. All of a sudden a sea of blue gowns and white masks were giving orders and moving quickly. I was given a chair between the IV pole and K’s head. Dr B said “I told you there would be a lot of people!” It wasn’t just that there were a lot of people (13, I believe), but they all looked alike! (At one point I told someone to go be with the babies and she said “the pediatrician is with them.” I thought she WAS the pediatrician!)

Kylene found the handles on the leg holders and she pushed about 2.5 times and Alison Jamie came out screaming. Kylene and I were bawling and I just kept saying “oh my God. Oh. My. God.” It was unreal. But we knew the hard part was coming.

Dr. B took a deep breath and ‘went in’ to grab Rebecca. All I could see was the distress on Dr. B’s face. She looked so concerned and it really upset me. I was alternately looking at the warmer where Ali was and checking on Dr. B. She called for a “blue towel” and then said “Oh no you don’t.” Then she yelled “Nitroglycerin” and the Anesthesiologist said “I don’t have any.” Dr B said “it’s on the top of your cart.” So he sprayed something under Kylene’s tongue. (We had no idea what was going on!). After a few more harrowing seconds, Dr B pulled Rebecca Riley out and said quietly to the Pediatrician “I heard her clavicle pop.” I didn’t care so much about that as the fact that Becca wasn’t crying (or, I realized, breathing). They took her to the warmer and after some massage and oxygen she finally let out a whine. They were checking her collar and shoulder and you could already see bruises coming up on her arm and legs. Meanwhile, Kylene was taking a deep breath to push out the placentas. I was running back and forth checking on each baby and Kylene. When Ali’s placenta came out it just didn’t look right. I said to Dr B “that’s not right” and she said it looked like it had started to disintegrate. It finally made sense why Ali had been measuring so much smaller. The babies knew they were better off out than in!

Finally, Dr. B assured me Kylene was fine and I should follow the babies to the nursery. On the way out I saw Kylene’s mom and sister. I think I started crying again when I saw Bethany and hugged her and told them K was doing great and I was going to the nursery and would be right back.

When I got to the nursery they were weighing my “little one” Alison Jamie was 5lbs 1oz.  I waited for them to weigh Becca and finally said “are we weighing this one or what?” They had already weighed her (my bad!) and she was 6lbs 5oz.

I think I took some pictures, looked around for something I should be doing and finally said I was going back to the room and to please bring the babies in as soon as they could.

When I got back to the room Dr. B was explaining what had happened with Becca. I told her that she needed to work on her poker face as she had me pretty concerned.  She told me “Screw my poker face, I got the baby out!” We knew Becca was breech and there was the possibility of a c-section if Dr. B couldn’t pull her out. So when she first reached in she got a hand and a foot and knew that wouldn’t work. So she tried to push the hand back in and turn her. Becca’s arm was up over her head and her hand was around her head so there was no turning her so Dr. B had to grab both feet and pull. When she got her ‘blue towel’ (because, she said, babies on latex gloves are too slippery) Becca pulled both her feet back up. That was Dr. B’s “Oh no you don’t!”. So she got the feet but when she went to pull, Kylene had a contraction and everything ‘locked up’. Nitroglycerin relaxes large muscles so that’s why she needed that to relax K’s uterus and pull Becca out. We joked that we didn’t know who was having a heart attack…Kylene or Dr. B! When Becca came out Dr. B was sure she heard her clavicle pop, so she wanted the Ped to know that her collar-bone could be broken. But she told us bones heal and there wouldn’t be any long-term effects. [And, for the record, x-ray confirmed no fracture!]

As we were rehashing the 15 minutes in the OR I started to get very short of breath and dizzy. I leaned back against the wall and sort of slid to the floor. Dr. B threw me a pillow and told me to lay flat on the floor because I was hyperventilating. She called a nurse to bring me juice and everyone laughed when Kylene had to ask me how *I* was doing. She just gave birth to twins and looked way better than I did! So for anyone that heard I passed out in the delivery room – I merely hyperventilated in the recovery room!

After that it’s all a blur. Scott, Cass and Aunt Marilyn (K’s MIL) came over to see the babies and we made phone calls and sent texts and took pictures all night. I decided to go sleep at Marilyn’s because I really wanted the babies monitored in the nursery over night and one more night of sleep couldn’t hurt!

I am forever thankful that Kylene didn’t have a lot of pain with labor. I think I would have been a basket case. It was so nice to be able to chat and hang out. Watching our babies come out was the most amazing thing EVER. The fact that Kylene went through meds, shots, appointments, being uncomfortable, not being able to do things with her kids…I just don’t have the words to thank her and her family for completing ours. And I do mean “complete” 🙂

Best. Journey. Ever.

The End (or The Beginning?)

Still here

It’s been an uneventful week. After the u/s this afternoon I expect nothing will happen for a little while. K has been doing all her normal stuff (AND scrubbed the floor yesterday) and nothing… The girls are just happily baking…

I’ll be meeting Scott in Baltimore this weekend to get Cass. He’s not doing well with the single parent thing so she will come down here and stay with me. I was hoping to keep her home and in school until the babies are born, but this way she and I will have “quality time” until her sisters arrive and take over 🙂

So here I am…

…in Virginia, waiting for the girls to make their appearance(s). I can’t even believe K is 36 weeks pregnant today. It’s been the longest and shortest 36 weeks EVER! We have an OB appt tomorrow and hopefully will get a better idea of how much longer it will be. No worries, I won’t be pushing for scheduling anything. Just curious what the doctor’s gut feeling is. I am staying with K’s in-laws (who are Scott’s aunt and uncle) and we are all relieved that I am close enough to make even the quickest labor and delivery now.

The nursery is ready except for cribs which should be coming home any day. But the bassinet is ready and the dresser and all the laundry is done…Car seats are in the van; babies bag is here. I think we are as ready as we can be. Can you really be ready for 2 newborns?

Trying to remain calm

I feel like I have a lot to say, but it’s all jumbled in my head.

Last Friday we had an u/s and OB appt. Everything is still right on track. Babies are measuring 4lbs and 5lbs, A still head down (and so low it’s almost impossible for her to flip now) B is still breech (and practically sitting on her sister’s head!). The u/s dr mentioned 37 weeks, but Dr B dismissed that as “they don’t know” and I’m sure they don’t. It would just be so nice to have an idea…

K goes back to Dr B on Tuesday and then I’ll be in town from 2/14 on. I’ll be staying at Scott’s Aunt’s house (K’s MIL) so that I don’t hover (Deanna made me promise :)) I really don’t want to hover and I swear I’ll never say “do you feel anything?” because I know Kylene  will tell me if she feels anything! It’s just a dumb question! Cass will stay home with Scott and we’ll meet up halfway on the weekend(s). It’s a plan for now but I know I’ll have to be flexible (my downfall!)

The babies’ room is painted but we are waiting on the cribs to do anything else because we are just not sure where/how they are going to fit. Once again I ordered too much furniture!

I am going to spend this week packing and getting ready for the gala this weekend. The timing of everything is just crazy!

As I drove home from VA last night I thought that this could be the last time I drive north without the babies. CRAZY!!

We are so close

Deanna and I spent a good part of last week shopping for baby clothes and stuff. I feel confident the babies won’t be naked on the way home now. We bought the paint and I’m just waiting for Scott to be ready to use it. Scott and I ordered the dresser this weekend and our source for the cribs says they can be picked up any time. Things are really coming together. I’m going to pack the babies’ bag and take it to leave at K’s this week when I go for the OB appt.

Yesterday Cass and I visited with a friend who had her baby last month. As she was telling me about going into labor I realized that’s going to happen to us (well to K really!). As many birth stories as I’ve heard/read I have never been a part of “OMG. I think this is IT!” I can’t even imagine how exciting it is to realize that you are going to meet your babies NOW. I just hope and pray that everything goes well and I am there and K has an easy delivery (two deliveries?).

Tomorrow we’ll find out the new measurements (babies and cervix) and then Friday is the OB appt so she can tell us what it all means. It’s weird to make appointments (doctor, hair, etc) and know that the babies will be here by then…

30 WEEKS

I think I’m in shock that we are 30 weeks pregnant. This is it. This is the last 10 (likely less) weeks. At this point in Cassidy’s gestation, we didn’t even know she was coming home with us and yet I feel like we don’t have enough time to get everything done! 🙂

I have the bedding here at the house and the new diaper bag (my treat to me). We have ordered the furniture. New carpet is coming Tuesday. I need to choose a paint color for the room and start painting. Of course none of that really matters. We need to get 1 more car seat and pull out the newborn clothes and then we’re ready to go. I suppose we should get some bottles too… I picked out birth announcements (well, actually, I couldn’t find any I like so I found someone to design them). I’ll print the labels and have the envelopes ready in the next couple weeks. I do want to find something nice and sort of matchy to bring them home from the hospital in, but I’ll have time to shop in the next few weeks…

I think I’m in that nesting mode that I’ve never really known before. Sadly for Scott it’s not leading to cleaning, just buying 🙂

2010 in review (just thought this was cool!)

The stats helper monkeys at WordPress.com mulled over how this blog did in 2010, and here’s a high level summary of its overall blog health:

Healthy blog!

The Blog-Health-o-Meter™ reads This blog is on fire!.

Crunchy numbers

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A Boeing 747-400 passenger jet can hold 416 passengers. This blog was viewed about 6,500 times in 2010. That’s about 16 full 747s.

 

In 2010, there were 52 new posts, growing the total archive of this blog to 72 posts. There were 34 pictures uploaded, taking up a total of 25mb. That’s about 3 pictures per month.

The busiest day of the year was July 8th with 169 views. The most popular post that day was 439.

Where did they come from?

The top referring sites in 2010 were surromomsonline.com, facebook.com, journeyintosurrogacy.blogspot.com, bakinbabies.blogspot.com, and benandann.blogspot.com.

Some visitors came searching, mostly for bfp so faint imagination, 6w4d ultrasound, pregnancy calendar, 6dp5dt, and 12 week belly.

Attractions in 2010

These are the posts and pages that got the most views in 2010.

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439 July 2010

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Dear Diary September 2010

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2nd Ultrasound July 2010

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Third and final clinic u/s August 2010

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Getting nervous… December 2010
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We weigh over 2lbs!!

Wow. What a great day! The OB appt was boring, just like it should be 🙂 Heartbeats are good, K is measuring 33 weeks and her weight is right on (don’t worry, K, I would never divulge that number in cyberspace!) Her cervix is doing great and she doesn’t need another u/s until 32 weeks.

We had an u/s that estimated the babies weigh 2lbs 4 oz (Baby A) and 2lbs 11oz (Baby B); A is head down and B is breech, but that’s ok cause A is the important one (but don’t ever tell her I said that!!). Please say lots of prayers that K’s 3 hour glucose comes back fine today. I would hate to have to hide all the cookies while Kylene and her family are in town!

As soon as the holidays are over we will be setting up the nursery. The bedding is here and the furniture should be ordered this week. This is really IT!!!

ETA: Prayers worked – K passed the 3 hour with flying colors.. let the cookie eating begin 🙂

Getting nervous…

So I’m starting to get nervous about this whole ‘2 babies’ thing. The more people that say “you’re going to have help, right?”, the more I wonder if I’m crazy to do this “alone.” “Alone” being me, Scott, and the occasional friend or family member. My big problem is that I’m a control freak. I want things done my way and if they’re not I *may* throw a tantrum. Yes, I know this about myself.

Hiring someone is really not feasible because, contrary to popular opinion, we are not rich IPs (surrogacy joke…). But seriously, with me not working, Cass going to school, AND 2 more humans to clothe and feed, things are going to be tight as it is. That’s not to say that we can’t ever get a sitter, but it’s not going to be a common occurrence.

But, others have done it – raised twins without help. And what’s the worst that can happen? I’ll be a zombie until they start sleeping through the night. The only real issue is Cass and I will have to make the extra effort to stay awake when she’s home 🙂 I just have to remember that it won’t last forever. So if you don’t hear from me for a while, just assume I’m sleeping!

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